feeling like a big jerk...

xjessiex · Joined: 14 Apr 2004 Posts: 35 Location: southern utah

because, well... there's a poster on newglitter that i really don't like.
i feel like their posts are really trollish, but no one else has brought up that point so i'm keeping my lips zipped.

however, i just feel really annoyed and yes, angry everytime i see one of their posts...

i know it's not 'real life' and i just need to step away, but glitter has been part of my daily routine for going on four years now and i'm really PO'd that this person has jumped in and started to dominate the board with their (in my opinion) rude and obnoxious presence.

*sigh*

i guess i just needed to vent and rest my eyes from the stress that is glitter for me right now...

thanks girls,

--jessie
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roxy_fondue · Posted: Sun Apr 25, 2004 9:33 pm Post subject:

i like this board a bit more than the new glitter because there are less posts (therefore i have the time to read them all) and less negativity, overall. but the new glitter also has its positive attributes.

when the trollish behaviour at new glitter gets you down, just come on over here :)

Lyssalicious · Joined: 13 Apr 2004 Posts: 161 Location: Midwest

xjessiex, I have a feeling I know which poster you're talking about. And I get ya. I feel the same.

Newglitter does seem a bit snarkier than it used to, but it always has its phases. It should be done sometime soon.

Isn't it weird when people you don't even know stress you out?

CraftyChicaAZ · Joined: 14 Apr 2004 Posts: 686 Location: phx, az

It doesn't matter if it is on a message board, on the playground or in the board room - those kind of people are always, and will always be around. I've devleoped a policy to just ignore them. Hopefully they will get bored and go away. And if you have no choice in dealing with them (like at work, school or a favorite message board) I suggest going old school. My dad always taught me the old "kill them with kindness" motto and it really does wear mean people down!
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CraftinFool · Joined: 14 Apr 2004 Posts: 809 Location: New England

You know, craftychica, I had always taken notice on the old boards that you never got involved with the posts that got petty or snarky, and whenever I got tempted to jump in, I'd think, I should take the same path as CraftyChica, she's cool b/c she's above all that stuff. It kept me out of trouble!

So thanks for being a good example to someone who can sometimes have a bit of a temper.

amanelle · Joined: 13 Apr 2004 Posts: 347 Location: NC

I agree. I hope it's just the change or a phase. Maybe everyone is just grumpy with the change and once everyone is used to it things will calm down. I don't think we've seen any drama here though.

Amanelle/favorgrl

Katrin · Posted: Mon Apr 26, 2004 7:42 pm Post subject:

xjessiex, I know exactly who you mean too. The first time I saw a post by that person, I was amazed that everyone was answering her (?) completely seriously, and am even more surprised that they've continued to do so—I remember people on the old Glitter crying "Troll!" over a lot less.

Just one of the reasons I've concluded that New Glitter is fine for some, but not for me.

xjessiex · Joined: 14 Apr 2004 Posts: 35 Location: southern utah

well, at least i'm not alone. i just couldn't figure out how no one else seemed to find 'her' posts a little too similar to other things we've seen, like the gap being high fashion and us being terribly ugly and so on and so forth.

ah well, when i need a breather it's nice and cozy over here.

--jessie
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deadulasch · Joined: 15 Apr 2004 Posts: 47 Location: NYC

Oh, xjessiex I've seen the same troll-like rebuttals used by someone that claims to be an earnest participant (in other words, not a troll) in more than one thread. Cut and paste. Verbatim.

I feel like the term "troll" is too cute. I prefer "jackass".

Talking about boards on other boards wierds me out a little. But here I go: I'm pretty sassy and sarcastic and I don't bruise or offend easily. But I cannot STAND jackass-ery and mos def let it get to me sometimes.

Even when I don't respond i just get pissed-actually, especially when I don't respond. I feel like justice must be served and I have the spoon. The spoon of sass. But that's what jackasses want. And so silence is sometimes best.

damn you, sensible silence. damn you.

amanelle · Joined: 13 Apr 2004 Posts: 347 Location: NC

I actually posted here before I read glitter. I know people were being a little more snarky than usual, but jeez. It seems like everyone was jumping down the other's throat. It's way too hostile over there today. Maybe it's because Tsia is away. You know how in school when the teacher left the room everyone went crazy.

CraftyChicaAZ · Joined: 14 Apr 2004 Posts: 686 Location: phx, az

Passing the spoon of sass is a great way to say your piece - but it's hard when it's a virtual spoon. There is always a last word, and a last word, and another last word, etc...

I am always so proud of the unspoken rule we all have when a weird person (like salespeople, etc) posts a goofy message - we all basically ignore it and the thread vanishes into oblivion! Then that person knows no one even acknowledged them, their point was valueless and if they truly want to get feedback they have to come back with respect and good intention. It sounds goofy, but it is so true. Maybe we need to do that more often, even if it is someone we love, they'll hopefully get the gist and get back on track to a better tune...

I deal with cranky people all day in all kinds of situations, so when I come to the boards, any board, I naturally gravitate to ones that will motivate and inspire me, and hopefully vice versa. Life is too short to let that stuff invade your space!

Sorry to sound preachy!

Ok, I'm off to see other topics. I love how this board is growing so fun, so fast!
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twilight · Joined: 14 Apr 2004 Posts: 330 Location: New Mexico

Sometimes I have a hard time not jumping on a thread and being bitchy. Any thread on the Bush administration usually gets me all fired up.

But I've tried to cool down and not jump in and get nasty. When I feel like writing a flaming reply I actually write my response with a pen and paper. There's just something about actually writing my thoughts down that makes me feel a lot calmer.
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sun bear · Joined: 13 Apr 2004 Posts: 443

you can always write a spitfire post and hit preview but not submit, that might make you feel better :)

Once I was ranting about somone all of you don't know, just a person I knew that was pissing me off, but I didn't see fit to post it, but just writing it down got all my anger out :)

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amanelle · Joined: 13 Apr 2004 Posts: 347 Location: NC

I do that a lot. I'll sit down and right out the post, then not post it. I just feel better getting it out.

partysaurus · Joined: 27 Apr 2004 Posts: 11

When I have to scan and post a nutritional label because other posters tell me I'm lying, I feel like a troll.

There was so much hostility over there, but I kept going back. It's kind of like trying to be friends with the cool kids in high school--they always treated me like shit, but I tried every day to fit in. I saw them picking on other people, but I still thought it might be cool if they liked me.

jt, I agree with writing a post even if it doesn't make it on the board. Sometimes a dummy post is all it takes for me to calm down.